On Nagging
What is nagging?
Nagging is the act of constantly complaining, fault-finding, or urging someone to do something, often causing annoyance or frustration.
Women are often attributed to nagging, but sometimes men do it too.
When women nag, it's to try to enact change, or to demand something from someone else. Sometimes, the women that do it simply do it because they were never taught their "please and thank you's" or to ask for things correctly.
Nagging and insulting is a way of negatively achieving power.
We all think that we're kind souls, but a lot of us can't ask for things correctly because we were never taught to. We were taught the inverse of kindness, and, many of us default to negative commentary when given the chance.
Rather than construct or build a conversation to get what we want, we default to insulting the other person, to lower their self esteem just enough to achieve what we perceive is the upper hand.
Deconstructing daily conversation evidently will bring down anyone, but most especially it will bring down those that we love, and with our demands and the power of our disapproval, we show them that mistakes, no matter how minor, should never happen.
This type of dynamic is used by anxious people to bring down others to their level of anxiety. It's about gaining control over a situation, since the perceived issue is in a way, nagging at the person nagging others.
Conflating minor mistakes to big ones makes the receiving party make sure to avoid making any mistakes in the first place, but it also damages the receiving party psychologically in the process.
Now, the recieving party may become anxious too, or, they may see ghosts where there aren't any.
Women tend to nag better than men, and the stereotype of a nagging woman is not far from the reality many of us face in our daily personal lives, wether it be from our matriarchs or from older female coworkers. Or, if you're a man, even from our wives, nagging is detrimental.
If someone is trying to make you anxious or to hurry you up about a task, you're probably being nagged.
Recognize this, and simply remind yourself to not fall for the anxiety trap of doing tasks quicker than needed.
Keep your calm and do things at your own pace.
Thank you, pussista.
I almost laughed.